If the trans fluid is coming from the front and dripping from where the trand and engine
meet, the front output shaft seal is most likely leaking. It's only about a 10 dollar part, but the trans needs removed to replace it. As far as the gray smoke, I question if coolant is getting into the combustion chamber as a result of a bad head gasket. (Very odd on this engine) And as far as the rattle, check it and let me know what you find. If it's a heat shield, it's and easy, cheap fix. If it's a converter (loose inside) not hard to replace, but the converter will be a couple hundred dollar part.
Let me know what you find. And as far as the woman thing, were here to help stop that as much as we can.
Sunday, March 1st, 2009 AT 2:21 PM