1999 Ford Escort 1999 Escort ZX2 Sport Coupe

I've driven this car about 1 week total in the 6 months I've owned it. There's several issues I think. In order of occurrence:

Oil all over engine compartment.
Oil in spark plug holes.
Replaced valve cover gasket.
Still oil everywhere. Its leaking around the thing that goes into the top of the valve cover and goes into the cam?
Idle is too low, need to adjust, makes the car shake while in gear at stoplights.
Now car won't stay charged.
Charged the battery, started car, drove to battery place, checked battery and alternator guy said both good.
Yeah drove car! Same night, raining, dark, dashlights dimming, dead. Tow home! Still there.
Could charge and drive, during the day and don't run anything. Will start again. But really don't want to charge my car everywhere I go and be worried about not starting or stalling because it totally drains the battery.
There seems to be a lot of oil.
I'm sorry, I know an answer is worth more than the $10 I have now. Please don't feel insulted, I really do appreciate this!
Thank you!
Kathy
(My husband won't do anything unless I write him a book! No, I can't just replace husband!) Lol