Engine shut down problem

I forgot to say that my fuel pump, sometime when the keys is on the fuel pump stay on.

Can you or someone tell me wich one of the five relay is the one for the fuel pump, there one with five wires.

Relays may not be indexed on mounting rail in the order shown, use wire color to identify relays, can you tell me the color of the wire of the fuel pump relays, and thank you for the help apreciate.

Because I got five relays, in the back of the high beam, there one of the five is bigger than the others ones and got fives wires

Ok when I buy the van the check engine ligth was on, it was the knock sensor was the problem, repair done, the engine ligth is off, but Now it start to stall progressively more, When I turn the key on, the check engine vibrate and the fuel pump relay, with the key
On like that for 10 to 20 seconds, the pulsing stop and the ligth come steady
And the van is startable, but when the ligth vibrate it wont start, and when the motor stop
The engine ligth turn off and wait 15 second again and it starte
d, and I change the oil switch

And my speedometer acting as a rpm, forgot to tell from the begining

Yess! Job done rigth thanck you 2carpros nice site, now just spend another day on the van, trying to figure out what
wrong, and by surprise the ignition module bracket stud where the ground attach, and the bolt was very loose, so I tech spec the connection and that it, no more vibrate check engine, everithing back to normal, recomend to check every ground before spending money on parts thank you all again!