Suspension/struts/wheels possible damage after an accident?

My boyfriend hit a middle divider and I can't figure out what exactly is wrong with the car now. I first noticed the driver's side front tire was pushed back more than all the other tires so when I turned the steering wheel the tire would hit the wheel well and my car wouldn't be able to turn all the way. I was told it was my A-arm/control arm. So, I bought a brand new one and put it on my car. It seemed to have fixed the problem, but I wasn't convinced. To me it was still slightly pushed back. I was able to turn the car fine but when the steering was turned all the way I could still feel and hear the tire scraping on the inside wheel well. So, the first time I drove it since putting a new a-arm on it did ok but to me it didn't feel right. Well on my way home I'm on the freeway and I hear a loud noise and than a loud thumping noise, so I pull over thinking I have a flat tire and I don't. I don't see anything wrong so I try driving and it makes a really loud thump thump, thump, noise and it doesn't feel like everything is okay so I pull into a gas station and look under my car and all around and I find that the back side of the tire has been totally shredded with all the metals showing but we're still holding air. So, I looked at my trunk I didn't have a spare tire my boyfriend comes, and he goes to change the tire when he takes the tire off we see behind the tire there's a whole bunch of oil everywhere as if something exploded. So, I get it to a back to my house and everybody's telling me now that it's my struts front and back because my car is leaning to the left. But what I noticed it the front and back tires on the driver's side don't seem to line up with the body of the car but on the right side they do. I'll attach pics of what I'm talking about so u see what I mean. Also, the oil that was behind the wheel when we took it off was because the boot clamp, I think it's called came off or at least that's what I am being told.