2005 Honda Civic This car is a mess please help

Hi tiffany86

When I hit a bump or hole it feelis like im getting pulled into it and the car gets out of control hard to steer.

The above indicates it is most likely a fault with the ball joints, control arm bushes and/or steering linkages.

When I hit a bump my hole front end makes a loud thud feels like there is no cushion.
Also when I go around a corner the whole car tips.

All the above indicates a possible fault with the struts.
Were the struts replaced and if yes, with OEM?

When I get on the highway trying to speed up the car almost feels like its hicuping no power up hills and now at 45+ speed it makes a whining sound that goes up and down with acceleration.

This should be a problem with the engine performace and when was the last time a tune-up was done? As to the noise, if it goes up and down with engine speed, possible areas are A/C compressor, idler bearings, alternator bearings.

You need to localise the source of the noise and proceed from there.