1996 Honda Civic HX a/t slippage

Fluid was change couple thousand miles ago. This with a heavier fluid. Absolutely no change. I was religious w/ honda brand fluid but at 5.50 a qt X 4.1 qts and given the mileage and replacing the tran screen/filter never has changed conditions. I did have a rather significant hair ball of metal with pencil tip sized metal. As stated originally I can only add that there is a high winding noise associated, that going up any significant upgrade will bog the tranny, not the motor, down, and I have to essentially let off a bit on the gas then go at that slower speed to get up incline. Intersection dead stops it requires giving a tap of the pedal while holding the brake and then I put it into drive. Pretty close to driving a clutch. Around turns at 20 mph or faster the tranny does the bog down thing so I neutral, turn ignition off etc. Sometimes it feels like the trans axles aren't meshing tightly and this is only from dead stops. Otherwise, 37 1/2 mpg, paid for the day I drove it off honda lot and other than routine maint, tires, batteries, etc only set me back with egr problem one summer about $450. Honda said flushing and new fluid wouldn't help. Any ideas?