Coolant Leak

Thank you. I have another question. On my first trip from home, schedule oil change flashed. Also oil temperature light showed. On second trip, I had traveled 40 miles with air conditioning on and suddenly oil temperature flashed at 215 and outside temperature around 95. I pulled over and stopped for one hour. I checked the oil. It was not low, but the car seemed to be very, very hot. Almost like the oil was burning. The oil temperature went to 167 as the car sat for that hour. I drove the 5 miles to my destination and after sitting for 2 hours the oil temperature was 129. On the return trip, I decided not to use the A/C. I watched the oil temperature light. Outside was cooler, it reached 204 temperature. I turned the A/C on 1 mile before home and the oil temperature went to 203. I drove 2 additional times and in 20 minutes, the oil temperature went to 197. The fan has never kicked on. I have never heard the fan since the night before car ran hot and later diagnosed as thermostat. I called the dealer and tech rep who is not a mechanic said 215 is normal because he asked the mechanic. I told him the car was very, very hot and the fan never kicked on. I've talked to my mechanic cousins and they think fan could have been hooked back wrong. I am trying to get an opinion, because I feel the fan should have clicked on. I read it should kick on at oil temperature of 200. I am really afraid to drive far, fear of messing up the motor. Which is still quiet.