Won't crank over. Starter relay not closing

My daughter's 98 Explorer sport has been having a problem with not cranking over and now it just won't. I replaced the transmission switch (neutral) and swapped the relays. No "check engine" and Anti-thief light is normal, on for about 3 sec then off. Never a rapid flash.

It's not a battery or battery cable problem because I took the cover off the starter relay and if I turn the key to run and press on the relay the starter kicks in and it starts right up.

I get 12+ on the (red/Lt Blue) starter wire at the bottom of the steering column with the key in start position but no power at the starter relay under the hood. Hayes manual shows the key going to the Anti-Thief module but no detail.

Any ideas or the wiring path from the key to the relay. That looks like where my problem