Car has died

I have a 1995 Honda civic EX automatic with 198,000 miles on it. I drive 128 miles a day five days a week. Last week on my way home from work I noticed the temp gage was pinned at hot, I was about a quarter mile from a exit. I drove to the exit park the car called the wife to pick me up. The next day I returned to the car and filled it with water and found the leak ! It was the return line, the small hose. I replaced the hose and filled the car with anti freeze fluid and drove it home. The first thing I noticed was the car wasnt shifting very normal at all, it reved very high and I would have to take my foot off the gas to make it shift and that didnt work all the time, sometimes I would just have to wait and every shift was hard ! I drove it to work the next day and when I got home I did notice the idel wasnt very good and a studdering when coming to a stop. I pulled the plugs and checked the basics as well to see what was wrong started it again, it ran for about a minute and died. It hasnt started since and here is what I have checked so far.
I have a friend who is a mechanic we check the following. We pulled the distribiter cap and cleand it, checked the wires, checked the timming belt and made sure it was still in line with the distribiter cap, everything fine. It gets spark, and fuel, we even tried starting fluid in the intake and still got no responce at all ! Nothing it just turns over without any clues !