1996 Chevy Cavalier Starter/ Relays

Electrical problem
1996 Chevy Cavalier 4 cyl Front Wheel Drive Manual

Ok. A little while ago my car wouldn't start. I thought the way it was acting that it was my starter. I could turn the key and the lights would come on, but when I tried to turn it over I get nothing, no sounds or even a hint of it wanting to start. Though I could short the terminals on the siloniod (sorry for spelling) and have it start with no problems. So I thought I'd just change the starter and it still did the same thing. I was instructed to replace the starter relay on the car, but I'm having trouble finding this relay. If there is such a thing, can some one please give me a hint to find it. Or if there is anything else I should check on.

Just to give more info:

I have a 96 Chevy Cavalier with a 2.2 engine