Hi bigdogszuki8564,
The pump should not be running each and every time you start the car. Tt is doing so because there is internal pressure leakage in the system.
When the pump has been running for too long, the ABS cuts off the system.
You need a scan to find the source. If your model is equipped with an SCS terminal, bridging it would show you the error code in blinks.
The brake and ABS circuit runs in parallel and do mot mix unless there is internal seal leakages.
Replacement of brake pads does not affect the ABS.